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watch?v=VQYM0uHfUHw&feature=g-upl&context=G260683fAUAAAAAAAAAA This week we talk about the stages of recovery from abuse. The Muriel McQueen Fergusson Foundation dinner and our new song on reverbnation.

Hey Gang,

Just wanted to send you out a little teaser of one of our new songs. When I heard it for the first time I immediately thought of my friend Chuck Matson who died in an unfortunate plane crash. Chuck was one of my very good friends and I miss him alot. I hope you enjoy the song and look forward to the album this spring. Thanks again for following  Here’s the link to the song Farewell

Hey ~ every week I’m going to answer a fan’s question via podcast on my YouTube channel which you can find on my website www.theofleury14.com, so submit your questions or perhaps a suggestion for a topic and I’ll answer! All I ask is that you use your imagination, ask a question that the answer will benefit everyone and keep it clean. The goal here is to ELEVATE THE CONVERSATION…so be creative!

I recently read this and thought I would share it with you enjoy.

Wear sunscreen ~ Baz Lurhmann

If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be

It. The long term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by

Scientists whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable

Than my own meandering experience…I will dispense this advice now.

Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth; oh never mind; you will not

Understand the power and beauty of your youth until they have faded.

But trust me, in 20 years you’ll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can’t grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked….

You’re not as fat as you imagine.

Don’t worry about the future; or worry, but know that worrying is as

effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubblegum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind; the kind that blindside you at 4pm on some idle Tuesday.

Do one thing everyday that scares you.

Sing.

Don’t be reckless with other people’s hearts, don’t put up with people who are reckless with yours.

Floss.

Don’t waste your time on jealousy; sometimes you’re ahead, sometimes you’re behind…the race is long, and in the end, it’s only with yourself.

Remember the compliments you receive, forget the insults; if you succeed in doing this, tell me how.

Keep your old love letters, throw away your old bank statements.

Stretch.

Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want to do with your life…the most interesting people I know didn’t know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives, some of the most interesting 40 year olds I know still don’t.

Get plenty of calcium.

Be kind to your knees, you’ll miss them when they’re gone.

Maybe you’ll marry, maybe you won’t, maybe you’ll have children, maybe you won’t, maybe you’ll divorce at 40, maybe you’ll dance the funky chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary…what ever you do, don’t congratulate yourself too much or berate yourself either – your choices are half chance, so are everybody else’s.

Enjoy your body, use it every way you can…don’t be afraid of it, or what other people think of it, it’s the greatest instrument you’ll ever own…

Dance…even if you have nowhere to do it but in your own living room.

Read the directions, even if you don’t follow them.

Do NOT read beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly.

(Brother and sister together we’ll make it through

Someday your spirit will take you and guide you there

I know you’ve been hurting, but I’ve been waiting to be there

For you. And I’ll be there, just tell me now, whenever I can.

Everybody’s free.)

Get to know your parents, you never know when they’ll be gone for

good.

Be nice to your siblings; they are the best link to your past and the people most likely to stick with you in the future.

Understand that friends come and go, but for the precious few you should hold on. Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle because the older you get, the more you need the people you knew when you were young.

Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard; live in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft.

Travel.

Accept certain inalienable truths, prices will rise, politicians will philander, you too will get old, and when you do you’ll fantasize that when you were young prices were reasonable, politicians were noble and children respected their elders.

Respect your elders.

Don’t expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund, maybe you have a wealthy spouse; but you never know when either one might run out.

Don’t mess too much with your hair, or by the time you’re 40, it will look 85.

Be careful whose advice you buy, but, be patient with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia, dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it’s worth.

But trust me on the sunscreen…

(Brother and sister together we’ll make it through

Someday your spirit will take you and guide you there

I know you’ve been hurting, but I’ve been waiting to be there

For you. And I’ll be there, just tell me now, whenever I can.

Everybody’s free.)

To All My Loyal Followers,

Just wanted to say thank you for all of your support and kind words this year. We will be entering into a new phase of our involvement this year with many projects on the table. Our music is coming along and are hoping to put out our first album and tour this year. We also have plans to announce our first fantasy camp here in Calgary. There will be new Navigational Coaching seminars as well. The Graham James case will hopefully finished in Feb. We are looking forward to this year with The Theo Fleury Society For Abused Men getting organized to make our mark on Men who suffer abuse and to develop new relationships with other groups.

Wishing everyone the very best in 2012. Thank you again for your support it absolutely means the world to me and my family. Happy Holidays and I hope to see along my travels this year. Feel free to come up and say hello. I love meeting all of you. Take care,

Theo

Due to the outcry of victims across North America in response to the Montreal Gazette’s article written by Pat Hickey, we felt it imperative to offer a response.

First and always, we encourage all those who have been sexually victimized to speak up, tell their story and to not live in fear. There will always be critics in the world, but you’re not alone and we must all stand together.

Victim bashing is never acceptable and proves over time to be counter productive and prolongs the pain. It does indeed sell newspapers but at the expense of wounded souls and therefore re-victimizing millions of people.

Finger pointing and name calling serves no positive purpose either, and allows the pedophile to slink back into the darkness as victims are once again left to pick up the pieces.

If there is any good to come of this it is the uniting of souls who have undergone wretched experiences and allies around the world who are demanding an end to the epidemic of sexual abuse.

Our focus is, and will continue to be, elevating the conversation, and encourage healing.

I was reminded recently of this quote ~ I share it with in the hopes it brings you some inspiration:

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”
― Theodore Roosevelt

We find it very distressing to hear anyone, much less a columnist for a major newspaper, take the side of a known convicted rapist by calling Theo Fleury an enabler. Trash talk and garbage columnists focus on the abuser and not on the abused. Pat Hickey is more interested in attempting to pit the abused against one another, than in demanding justice.
This column makes all other pedophiles rub their hands in glee-they have found a new hero in Pat Hickey.
Would you please write to the editor of the Montreal Gazette and demand that Pat Hicke be fired immediately.

IMMEDIATE RELEASE – PRESS CONFERENCE – THEO FLEURY

WHERE: Hyatt Regency
700 Centre Street SE
Calgary, AB
Atrium Room

WHEN: December 7th, 2011
12:00 pm

Calgary, Alberta CANADA – Today convicted pedophile Graham James pled guilty to in a Winnipeg courtroom to sexually assaulting Theo Fleury as an adolescent.

“Graham James pled guilty years ago, and then he was granted a pardon, after he was found in Mexico and brought back to Canada on these charges he was given bail, then plea bargained for 14 months – this is what the mighty Canadian justice system allowed a previously convicted child rapist to do.

There’s only one answer = he’s guilty.

And when he gets out of prison he will do it again, and again, and again.

I believe what people show me – he showed me he was and is a rapist. There is no changing a monster like that.

Defense lawyers can package up their clients in fancy words and lengthy legal maneuvers, but how they sleep at night knowing they are aiding and abetting a rapist is beyond me.

There is no more sugar coating this. This guilty plea is an international call to action – these people, the rapists and their defenders alike, need to take notice that victims, survivors, and victors of sexual assault will stand together and we are going to change this world.

This is a call to action on behalf of the 8 million survivors of childhood rape, and a call to all Canadians – this epidemic has to stop and stop now” says Theo Fleury.

For more information, please contact:
Carey Fraser
403.852.4846 carey@theofleury14.com

I will be holding a press conference for media only today – December 7th, 2011 – regarding the Graham James plea, at the Hyatt Regency in Calgary, Alberta at noon.

Please contact Carey Fraser at carey@theofleury14.com should you have further questions.