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5 Strategies to Relieve Anxiety

Anxiety is a well-known state of mind and each of us will experience it at some point in our lives. For most of us, anxiety will feel uncomfortable — a nuisance to be dealt with the best we can — and will inevitably visit us during some major life...

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Compassion is Better than Empathy

Empathic people feel the pain of others acutely. Is it possible to be too empathic? Could feeling too deeply for someone else’s pain or sorrow actually hurt you? Indeed, too much empathy can be debilitating. When we become too distressed about the suffering of others,...

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Deserving Therapy

We all have those wonderful friends. You know, the ones you won’t see for weeks or months, but still make you feel like not a day has passed since your last reunion? Several months ago, a college friend and I finally nailed down a specific date and time to meet. It...

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Unlocking the Vault

In the 11th year of her increasingly unfulfilling marriage to Mark*, Nicole began an affair with a coworker. Though she thought Will was funny and worldly, Nicole's initial motivation was simply to see if her marital sex life was terrible because "something was wrong...

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10 Relationship Truths I Wish I Knew Sooner

1. If you’re not making mistakes, you’re not taking enough risks. No, that doesn’t mean cheating. By mistakes I mean doing things within the boundaries of the relationship with good intent then taking responsibility for them if they were not healthy. Without mistakes,...

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How to Cultivate More Self-Compassion

Self-compassion or self-love may be a foreign concept for some people. This is especially true for those who were raised in abusive or unloving homes, where compassion was non-existent. A construct drawn from Buddhist psychology, self-compassion refers to a way of...

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Anger: A Misunderstood Feeling

The past several months, we have been exploring the feeling of curiosity (interest-excitement). For an overview of how feelings work, please see the July 2016 Newsletter. If curiosity, or interest, is the most under-appreciated feeling, anger may be the most...

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What Teens Need Most From Their Parents

The teenage years can be mystifying for parents. Sensible children turn scatter-brained or start having wild mood swings. Formerly level-headed adolescents ride in cars with dangerous drivers or take other foolish risks. A flood of new research offers explanations for...

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