Deserving Therapy

We all have those wonderful friends. You know, the ones you won’t see for weeks or months, but still make you feel like not a day has passed since your last reunion? Several months ago, a college friend and I finally nailed down a specific date and time to meet. It...

Unlocking the Vault

In the 11th year of her increasingly unfulfilling marriage to Mark*, Nicole began an affair with a coworker. Though she thought Will was funny and worldly, Nicole’s initial motivation was simply to see if her marital sex life was terrible because...

10 Relationship Truths I Wish I Knew Sooner

1. If you’re not making mistakes, you’re not taking enough risks. No, that doesn’t mean cheating. By mistakes I mean doing things within the boundaries of the relationship with good intent then taking responsibility for them if they were not healthy. Without mistakes,...

How to Cultivate More Self-Compassion

Self-compassion or self-love may be a foreign concept for some people. This is especially true for those who were raised in abusive or unloving homes, where compassion was non-existent. A construct drawn from Buddhist psychology, self-compassion refers to a way of...

Anger: A Misunderstood Feeling

The past several months, we have been exploring the feeling of curiosity (interest-excitement). For an overview of how feelings work, please see the July 2016 Newsletter. If curiosity, or interest, is the most under-appreciated feeling, anger may be the most...