Compassion is Better than Empathy

Empathic people feel the pain of others acutely. Is it possible to be too empathic? Could feeling too deeply for someone else’s pain or sorrow actually hurt you? Indeed, too much empathy can be debilitating. When we become too distressed about the suffering of others,...

Deserving Therapy

We all have those wonderful friends. You know, the ones you won’t see for weeks or months, but still make you feel like not a day has passed since your last reunion? Several months ago, a college friend and I finally nailed down a specific date and time to meet. It...

Unlocking the Vault

In the 11th year of her increasingly unfulfilling marriage to Mark*, Nicole began an affair with a coworker. Though she thought Will was funny and worldly, Nicole’s initial motivation was simply to see if her marital sex life was terrible because...

10 Relationship Truths I Wish I Knew Sooner

1. If you’re not making mistakes, you’re not taking enough risks. No, that doesn’t mean cheating. By mistakes I mean doing things within the boundaries of the relationship with good intent then taking responsibility for them if they were not healthy. Without mistakes,...