A colleague of mine told me that as she was taking a walk the other day she absentmindedly chingled the change in her coat pocket. The sound reminded her of her grandfather, he did the same thing when he walked. He wasn’t a remarkable man, he was a farmer who drank too much and parented in an cold and detached way. He wasn’t a mean man, and he never wished harm on another soul, he was simply like many from of his generation, as was her grandmother. They were married for over six decades. What she admired about her grandparents was their ability to welcome change. In fact, at the start of the sixth decade of their union they weren’t particularly happy together, and so sought out the counsel of a therapist. She grins when she thinks of her elderly grandparents, retired farmers who never ordered a pizza or never drove anything other than a Chrysler, sitting in the therapists office and discussing their feelings. I like that they did that, I admire their commitment to remain married but change what wasn’t working.
The only real constant in life is change. It’s universally known that without change, without efforts to adapt and reconfigure, life ceases to grow and we become stagnant.
The only thing I fear is becoming stagnant. And with that, irrelevant to a world that I know so badly needs to change.
We live in a remarkable country, and those who came before us worked very hard to create the democracy we prosper with today. That does not mean, however, that there isn’t anything we don’t need to change. First in my mind, is a stronger set of laws to protect our nation’s children from sexual predators.
I don’t find it helpful to look back into the past too often, but when it comes to the issue of child sexual abuse I do indeed review the past. Did you know that a vast majority of our native and aboriginal children were sexually abused in the residential schools up until the mid 1990’s? They endured the loss of their culture, their family homes and their parents only to be systematically abused. It is no wonder they are wounded and crying out for action from our government.
Did you know that Graham James was known to the police as far back as 1971? It’s no wonder those us of who came into contact with him struggled greatly for decades afterwards.
If only the laws had been sharper, stricter, tougher on child predators back then thousands of people would not have had to live an existence that resembled a nightmare.
I remain confused by a government that steadfastly refuses to change the current sentencing for sexual predators in the face of so much data, facts and pain. It simply doesn’t make sense. What we have now isn’t working. That’s not an opinion or simply a feeling, it’s a fact.
We’ve all heard this before: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result is the definition of insanity. Continuing to enforce a justice system where those who prey upon children in the most heinous ways only receive a short sentence in prison, if they receive a prison sentence at all, is insanity. The great majority of pedophiles reoffend again and again and again. The justice system works just fine for them, they don’t want change…but the rest of Canada does.
If an elderly couple, with limited education and almost no worldly experience, can change after decades of marriage, so can our country.
If you haven’t already signed the petition to change our current laws please go to www.victorwalk.com and do so. And please tell everyone you know – EVERYONE – to sign as well, to join the Victor Movement wherever they are, and make change happen. A child’s life depends upon it.
On behalf of the Victor Movement team and Fleury 14 Enterprises, I wish you a very happy New Year filled with hope and change. Together we can all be Victors over any kind of adversity.
2013 is going to be HUGE – see you there!